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“One way that this warning sign manifests itself is in cases of men who are attracted to women (or girls) who are much younger than they are. Why, for example, does a twenty-two-year-old man pursue a sixteen-year-old adolescent? Because he is stimulated and challenged by her? Obviously not. They are at completely different developmental points in life with a dramatic imbalance in their levels of knowledge and experience. He is attracted to power and seeks a partner who will look up to him with awe and allow him to lead her. Of course, he usually tells her the opposite, insisting that he wants to be with her because of how unusually mature and sophisticated she is for her age. He may even compliment her on her sexual prowess and say how much power she has over him, setting up the young victim so that she won’t recognize what is happening to her.”

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Lundy Bancroft 

(entire pdf available for free here)

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A lot of social media propels people towards taking on more and more extreme identities, and become too embroiled in little echo chambers. This is not just true of Tumblr, but it’s a problem across all social media (see for example, how YouTube recommendations push people towards more extreme views by recommending more of the same each time they consume a particular viewpoint).

Just be careful and mindful of that, especially if you are still really young. Honestly, “please go outside” is the best (albeit, annoyingly smug and sardonic) advice, because you realise just how little of the petty arguments and cult of personalities that people war over on social media doesn’t really matter that much outside. There is a lot of abuse, brainwashing tactics, and weird online cult of personalities that goes on in a lot of groups, and it becomes really easy to get embroiled in all of that, especially for people who have a propensity for loneliness, lack social suppport in “the real world”, and are still developing an identity and looking for in-groups.

Just always keep this in mind, and my advice would be to honestly stay away from getting heavily involved in social media groups and communities, especially if your intuition tells you that there is something slightly off about the interactions, and all of this is stressing you out. The good thing about online interaction is that it is easier to cut off — unfollow or block people, or delete your accounts if things start getting really personal, and take a social media break.